“Parenting is Like…”: A Poem

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PARENTING IS LIKE….

It was 9 p.m. on a Friday night. Having put my son to bed around 8, I was dressing up for a night out with my husband.

We had requested my in-laws to babysit, as it was my husband’s friend’s 40th birthday party. I’d gone the whole hog to dress up in a formal dress, full face of makeup etc. etc. Just as I was putting my heels on, my son began coughing. Over the years I’ve come to distinguish the different types of coughs, and I’m well-versed with various indicators of illness. Mothers are experts at determining how ill their child is on the basis of touch, feel and that elusive factor- the maternal instinct. This particular cough came straight from the chest, which soon became a recurrent and strong bout of hacking. Before long, he was throwing up.

Off came the heels and the beautiful dress, replaced by torn comfy sweats and my son’s head on my lap. Of course, after that he slept peacefully through the night 😉

Was I frustrated and upset? Yes of course! But I was far more concerned and worried. A parent’s heart has the ability to experience a multitude of feelings at the same time. The parent-child relationship really is the most unique in the world.

That Friday night, as I cuddled my son to sleep, I realised how conflicted parenting sometimes makes me feel. So, here’s my attempt at describing this inexplicable feeling.

Parenting is bittersweet

It’s a feeling unlike any other,

Quite hard to replicate and almost impossible to beat

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Parenting makes you strong

Nothing else compares,

It’s certainly no easy routine of dance and song

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Parenting also makes you weak

You often find yourself in situations

That test your resolve and make your eyes leak

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Parenting is hard! One particularly difficult feat

Is coming to terms with the feeling of your heart

moving outside your body, to its own beat

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Parenting is lovely too

Full of cuddles, laughs, and fun times

The happiest memories and cheerful hullabaloo

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Parenting is dirty

I certainly never imagined having poop on my clothes

At the age of thirty!

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Parenting is the best excuse. It’s truly great

that your child is your biggest responsibility

And everything else (work, home, friends, life) can wait

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Parenting makes you wise

Teaching you many important lessons-

It is life’s ultimate experiential prize

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Parenting also allows you to turn back time

You can jump in muddy puddles with your children

Giving no heed to the awful grime

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Parenting requires tremendous patience

Giving time and respect to your children

Is life’s real essence

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Parenting is a bumpy ride,

Each day heralds a different phase,

You’re learning on the job- there is no guide

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Parenting is also quite funny

Be prepared for many bumps and bruises

Along this hilarious journey

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Parenting is definitely hard to describe

There isn’t a single adjective to do it justice

It’s a multifaceted feeling- a vibe

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Parenting is happiness, frustration, laughs and tears

Beautiful memories, fights, hugs and kisses

Boundless joys, challenges, dreams and fears

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Parenting is love

Overwhelming, all-consuming, deep and true,

Just like your hand in a well-fitted glove

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Parenting is indeed a blessing,

To really understand it, you must join this exclusive club yourself

Till then, just keep guessing!

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Picture taken on the night that inspired this post, just before everything came off!

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5 Reasons Why Delhi’s New-Age Parents Need to Attend Marion Hopfgartner’s Parenting Workshop

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It is said that learning begins at home. As parents of active young minds, it is our responsibility to nurture our children to reach their highest potential as human beings. Marion Hopfgartner, an educationist, speaker, author and life transformer, has been advocating a holistic method of education for the last 22 years. TLI Pedagogics, as her methodology is called, harnesses a child’s inherent curiosity and desire to learn, and converts this desire into a life-long commitment to learning and excelling.

Priya Kant, the parent of a bonny one year old, realised that most Indian schools lay emphasis on academics, instead of recognising the individual strengths of children. So, she began exploring other educational methods. Marion Hopfgartner’s simple and relatable approach to education impressed Priya, who decided to organise two workshops in Delhi on July 10 and 13 (details below), for parents and teachers respectively, to spread awareness of TLI Pedagogics. These workshops will disseminate knowledge of this unique teaching methodology, so parents can adopt it as a lifestyle and schools can incorporate these principles into their teaching methods.

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Read on to know 5 reasons why new-age parents should attend Marion Hopfgartner’s workshop on TLI Parenting.

  1. A UNIQUE APPROACH TO PARENTING:

TLI Pedagogics, is short for ‘The Lelek Idea’ Pedagogics, a method of teaching developed exclusively by Hopfgartner in 1997. This system came into being after years of reading and research, her personal experience of working with age groups 1-12, as well as honing her instincts as an educator of young children.

As Hopfgartner explains, You simply make the children your companion and you softly guide them along the way. The older they become, the more you become a mentor and you make sure each and everyone knows what is their individual role and place in life. This will not just help you with rules and borders but also with creating a strong self-esteem and self-awareness within children.Her philosophy advocates guiding children on their path of life, and anchoring them to stay grounded, instead of attempting to be their friends.

  1. AN INTERNATIONALLY RENOWNED FOUNDER:

Marion Hopfgartner is an educationalist, speaker on various international educational platforms, congresses and conferences, as well as author of several books. She also offers consultancy to modernise existing schools by adopting TLI Pedagogics.

I was most impressed to learn that she has received many awards, including the prestigious “Ambassador of Peace” by the Universal Peace Federation. Her services are sought after across the globe. Hence, the workshop in Delhi is a wonderful and unique opportunity to be introduced to her work.

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  1. THE BELIEF THAT EDUCATION CAN PREVENT SOCIAL CRIMES AND PRESERVE A PEACEFUL BALANCE IN SOCIETY:

In a world inundated with technology and the fastest pace of growth, good education necessarily means finding a balance between “self-awareness, social awareness and academic knowledge.” When the focus is laid purely on academic achievements, many children get bored of rote learning, and others feel excessively competitive which affects their mental health in both cases. This is the root cause of many social ills, such as crime and debauchery.

Hopfgartner believes effective parenting methods prevent social crimes and can help in achieving world peace.

  1. FOCUS ON INDIVIDUAL LEARNING THAT STRENGTHENS EACH CHILD’S PARTICULAR SKILL SET:

Each child is different, grows at a different rate, responds to different stimuli and has different interests. Hence, why must we force all children to conform to a standardised teaching method?

As parents, we are better equipped to understand our own children, and we can focus on building their strengths while reducing the intensity of their weaknesses at home. Hopfgartner’s methodology promises to help us do that.

  1. PREPARATION FOR THE FUTURE OF EDUCATION WHICH WILL FOCUS LARGELY ON THE NEURO-SCIENCE OF LEARNING:

Awareness about effective methods of teaching and learning have only just entered the Indian consciousness. This is a sign that education is changing. In fact, our children’s needs, the prevailing industrial outlook and the nature of jobs are changing drastically.

Going forward, there will be a larger focus on neuroscience in education. Based on specialized principles, Hopfgartner’s TLI Pedagogics promises to build a strong personality for children to face the challenges of this century.

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Marion Hopfgartner’s TLI Pedagogics Institutes are based in Vienna, Austria with a branch in Kolkata. She will be speaking at the prestigious Global Educators Fest 2019 to be held in Udaipur in August. For this, she will join the likes of renowned educators such as Mathew Raggett, Headmaster of The Doon School, Dr. Swati Popat Vats, President of the Poddar Group of Education, among others.

Hence, the workshop scheduled next week, is a unique opportunity for Delhi parents to benefit from Marion’s insights into early child education. If you are a parent who would like to explore a new-age educational method, or you are dissatisfied with the current education your child is receiving, or would like to start your child’s education on the right note, then this workshop is for you.

I will be there on July 9 for the free talk and July 10 for the parenting workshop. Would you like to join me?

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DETAILS OF THE FREE TALK:

Date: July 9, 2019

Venue: India Habitat Center, Lodhi Road, Delhi

Time: 7:00 p.m.

Entry Fee: Free

WORKSHOP:

Date: July 10, 2019

Venue: India International Centre, 40, Max Mueller Marg, Lodhi Estate, off Lodhi Road, Delhi

Time: 9:30 a.m.- 1:00 p.m.

Entry Fee: INR 3000 per head, or INR 2500 per head if two seats are booked

ONLY 25 SLOTS

TO REGISTER PLEASE CONTACT:

9810563827 or priyakantansal@gmail.com

Website: www.tli-pedagogics.com

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**Featured image courtesy: http://www.istockphoto.com. All other images courtesy Priya Kant/ Marion Hopfgartner.

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Parenting 101: My Mantra to Deal With Tricky Situations #Momology

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As a mother, I’m constantly dealing with tricky situations. I’m currently thick in the middle of the ‘Terrible Twos’ and ‘Terrifying Threes’, hence the first parenting prompt in the #momology blog train (details below), really interested me. The prompt is, “What is your secret and most effective #momology or parenting mantra that comes handy in most tricky situations?”. Every parent has an individual outlook to parenting, and every child’s personality is distinct, which means we deal with issues in different ways. Read on to know my personal parenting mantra.

KEEP IN MIND THAT EVERY PROBLEM ISN’T A TRICKY SITUATION:

As parents, we must learn to distinguish between attention-seeking meltdowns and serious problems, and not lose our cool every time our child throws a tantrum. This allows us to correctly evaluate every problem, and enables us to deal with it effectively.

MY MOST EFFECTIVE MANTRA:

By differentiating between frivolous and actually worrying situations, we’re better equipped to deal with all kinds of tricky situations. The first thing I do, no matter the scale of the problem, is to take a step back and BREATHE.

If I don’t stay calm, there is little chance that my child will be calm. I will myself to close my eyes and inhale deeply, and immediately find my heart calming down, and my brain thinking logically. I’m present in the moment and able to multi-task by calming/distracting my child, alongside formulating the correct strategy for dealing with the particular problem at hand.

This mantra also helps to ensure that the child feels reassured. Our children pick up on signals through our behaviour. If we send out signals of extreme worry and/ or unpreparedness, they’re adversely affected. A composed parent ensures the child is able to communicate in a calm and coherent manner.

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DON’T BE TOO HARD ON YOURSELF:

Having shared my secret, I also want to make it clear that sometimes our best intentions fail, and we find ourselves losing our calm. Don’t stress, that’s not the end of the world. We’re humans, not superheroes (as much as our children would like to believe of us!), and we can never be perfect parents.

Don’t berate yourself on reacting badly in a tricky situation. Instead, learn from it, and be better prepared in the future because tricky situations will never end!

It’s imperative that we put every problem in its correct perspective, and remember that stressful moment will certainly pass. I agree with a dear aunt of mine, who once said to me, “small children, small problems; big children, big problems!”

What are your most effective mantras to dealing with tricky situations? Please share them in the comments below. Share this post with someone you think would like to read it!

This post is part of the #Momology Blog Train hosted by ThoughtsbyGeethica, SlimExpectations, Mummasaurus and Truly Yours Roma sponsored by FirstCry Intellikit, Instacuppa, Diet Funda, Hugs n Tugs, Tina Basu, Unorthodox Peeps, Lotus Herbals Baby and Shumee Toys. I would like to thank Misha for introducing me in the Momology Blog Train. You can read more about her work at www.freshlybakedhead.com. I would like to introduce Keerthana who blogs at www.activelifeliving.com.

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Mindful Parenting: An Insightful Workshop with Dr. Anupam Sibal

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With the organisers of the workshop. From L-R: Tamanna Dhamija of Baby Destination; Pia Desai Pasricha of Mommy A-Z

As social media and technology consume our lives, we lose touch with ground realities. It’s especially worrying to think of the effects on our children. One has to adopt an approach of ‘mindful parenting’ to truly stay connected with our little ones. Parenting Facebook group Mommy A-Z recently joined hands with online Indian parenting community Baby Destination; to conduct a workshop on mindful parenting. Renowned pediatrician and author, Dr. Anupam Sibal, conducted the workshop.

A space in the basement of Select City Walk Mall in Saket was used for this workshop. It comfortably housed the 30 odd parent participants. The workshop lasted a little over an hour, with Dr. Sibal presiding for most of it, before the floor was opened to questions. Tea and snacks were provided as apt accompaniments.

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From L-R: Pia Desai Pasricha (Mommy A-Z); Dr. Anupam Sibal; Shweta Talwar (Mommy A-Z0; Tamanna Dhamija (Baby Destination)

Dr. Sibal practices at Apollo Hospital as well as his clinic in Defence Colony, Delhi. He specializes in pediatric gastroenterology but has developed a keen sense of child-rearing in his role as a parent and a doctor. He has authored the national bestseller, “Is Your Child Ready to Face the World”, in an attempt to share his personal experiences and wisdom.

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The audience rapt with attention

Dr. Sibal focused on the concepts of humility, gratitude and forgiveness; and the importance of instilling these qualities in children. He shared heavily from his own experience and stories of inspirational figures to get his points across. A useful tip he suggested was to spend some quality time with your child on a daily basis, letting them lead the discussion. This would inform the parents of what’s happening in their child’s life and also make the child feel their ideas and opinions are important to the parents. Though he personally started this practice when his son was 10, he advises parents of this generation to start younger, as children are maturing faster.

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Dr. Sibal led an insightful workshop

I fortuitously discovered that I know Dr. Sibal’s son- he was my junior at school and we shared a bus ride back home. I have therefore seen his parenting philosophy in practice. I was impressed by his balanced take on bringing up children, especially his advocacy of giving space yet encouraging a friendly relationship between parents and children. Upon being asked whether mindful parenting ever really stops, he said the extent and role of parenting changes when the child is independent and ready to face the world; but one never stops being a parent!

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Happy faces after a successful workshop

The workshop was well conducted and insightful. It was also a great place to meet and interact with like-minded parents. I’m grateful to the organizers for bringing us together. If you’d like to participate in future workshops, be sure to join the groups by clicking here:

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Buy Dr. Anupam Sibal’s book here: http://amzn.to/2yVDdeg

If you’d like to read my post on a similar workshop held earlier, on “Raising Millenials in the Digital Age”, click here

Event Rating: 4.5/5

Why I Don’t Always Pre-Plan My Written Content: IWSG August 2020

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Is it just me or are the months whizzing by too quickly? In the blink of an eye, it’s time for another IWSG post. The Insecure Writer’s Support Group is an online community of writers and bloggers at various stages of their writing journey. On the first Wednesday of each month, people who have signed up with the group, are encouraged to write a post sharing their honest thoughts, anxieties and successes in the field of writing. A prompt is provided but not mandated.

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Here is the prompt for this month:

“Although I have written a short story collection, the form found me and not the other way around. Don’t write short stories, novels or poems. Just write your truth and your stories will mold into the shapes they need to be.”
Have you ever written a piece that became a form, or even a genre, you hadn’t planned on writing in? Or do you choose a form/genre in advance? 

This prompt immediately spoke to me. I’ve never planned my written content in advance. More often than not, I sit down with nothing but a given prompt in front of me, and I allow it to determine what shape it will take.

This decision is sometimes influenced by the circumstances I find myself in during that period in my life; sometimes by the books I’m reading at that point; but most often the topic itself guides me.

It’s immensely pleasurable to explore different forms of creative writing without pre-planning. That’s partly the reason I love blogging – I’m not forced to write for anyone in particular, or to achieve a singular goal. I am my own boss and write for my own pleasure.

Today has been a long day of home-schooling my 4-year-old, shooting videos for social media and working on a few deadlines. Hence, I’ll keep this post brief and leave you with a few examples of how my stories and truths often find their own shapes:

  1. I participated in a blog hop on the theme “Decade”, when India was racked by nationwide protests against a discriminatory citizenship bill. From that, emerged the first of a series of my short stories about the Sahni family in Delhi, beginning with “Seven Decades of Greatness”.
  2. One late December afternoon, I was a day away from the deadline given to us for entries on the prompt “Today I woke up in the morning and found….”. Terribly clichéd, I know, but it gave birth to one of my personal favourite pieces – a funny poem for children entitled “The Day the Earth Ceased to be Round”.
  3. Another prompt I remember in particular, was “Parenting is Like….”. The night before I sat down to write on this topic, I had been dolled up and ready to leave the house with my husband for a party, when my son began feeling ill. Off came the heels, the dress and the makeup. As I cradled my son’s head on my lap, I dreamed up this piece- a mix of prose and poetry.

In my opinion, the best writing stems from complete honesty and perhaps even a little unpreparedness. So, heed the advice given in today’s prompt- just write your truth without worrying too much about its form and your stories will mould into the shapes they are meant to be!

Do you agree with me? Or are you an inveterate planner of content? Let me know in the comments below!

Don’t forget to visit the IWSG group and read the pieces written by other participants. You can sign up there too.

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