The Revenge of the Introverts – Guest Post by Aditya Jaishankar

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When I bounced this title off a few people, there was a grin on their faces. In certain cases I received a thumbs up on WhatsApp with a smiley. To my delight, the reaction was quite spontaneous!

It felt like a sense of identification with a context that I did not even need to elaborate.

In recent times, quite a few people who have no issues with the introvert tag, have been content in their self-contained zones – no more physical meetings and long coffee sessions to endure, no unnecessary bonding over coffee with office colleagues. 

“I just want to do my work and go home. I’m not really interested in any long lunch session or drinks out with the boss. Spare me the effort and let’s just focus on work” are common complaints. Interactions beyond a point can be exhausting for this set of people. A Gulab Jamun party on Friday involving office mates may give them a momentary feeling of joy, but they can do without it.

Not all these people are necessarily introverts but have been classified as introverts. With a close set of friends they can go on and on with endless conversations.

The Revenge of the Introverts

Unfortunately, some of these take a backseat in the world of physical interactions that favour extroverts. The typical extrovert who is able to pull his weight around in the office, bouncing with confidence in every interaction, stays ahead of these introverts.

Fortune favours the extrovert 

Ashwin Sanghi in his book, 13 ways to get bloody lucky’, shares that people who interact with others more, attend more parties, have more friends etc., are luckier than the average population. In this process, they also build the requisite contacts which enable them to become luckier.

The competitive world prefers the lion to the quieter breed 

Face to face aggression in your body language can enable you to get your point across in many discussions. The less you speak up the less you are heard. 

So let’s come to the point.

How does work from home benefit the introvert? For this, we need to understand the semiotics of the work from home environment vs office environment 

  • A video call with an option to switch on or off whenever you need to 
  • A bedroom that offers you a cocooned world for you to be your real self 
  • Homemade meal consumption within the home and not in an external environment 
  • No constant physical follow up on jobs
  • No one literally sitting on your head 
  • Regulating the noise and distraction of the outside world and functioning in an environment that enhances your focus in a manner that benefits you 
  • A quick afternoon nap that can perhaps also double as the best  “Me Time” that one needs to refresh their brain cells.

Further, the video call setting forces us to pause and try and listen to the other person. Interruptions can completely disrupt a video call and thus everybody seems to slow down just that little bit, to give the less aggressive voices a chance to speak up and put their point across. The body language advantage that perhaps the more extroverted dude has in a physical interaction, is slightly subdued in a video call format.

This actually allows video calls to become a more level playing field between the slightly subdued introvert and the more overpowering extrovert.

Some of the introverts also seem very particular about whom they wish to spend their time with. Being pulled into meetings that you’re not required to attend is another bane of the physical world.

Working from a cocooned environment that offers you the ability to retreat from a conversation for a few minutes or seconds when you choose to. BRB (be right back) enables you to switch off when you need to and alter the pace of the conversation as per your convenience.

Let’s be a little flexible in defining the introvert. 

An introvert may not necessarily be shy but may just want to withdraw from a conversation and conduct it at a certain pace that makes him or her more comfortable.

Often in a group or gathering, people were asked why they were so quiet. Why they were not in their element. Physical interactions can be inflexible for a person who just needs some time to collect his thoughts. Typical stereotyping classifies this breed as introverts.

A lot of introverts like being in their self-contained zones. Their near and dear ones are perhaps the only interaction they need. While we all may immensely miss our mall visits, Friday night sessions, the constant chattering with relatives and friends over the weekend, this group seems pretty content leading a quiet and blissful existence.

The frequency of this new world perhaps matches their frequency, and one can see they are more in tune with their real selves than ever before.

It is going to take quite a while for the world to return to a regular office routine. Also, there are conversations about a hybrid working model which may suit introverts better. With a little bit of flexibility in working from home and going to the office a few days a week, they will perhaps outshine their peers in both professional and personal aspects.

Looks like the virtues of an introvert will be celebrated in a more flexible world order in the future.

Hopefully the tag introvert can be glorified as referring to people who are self-contained and content, not really seeking the frills and fringe benefits of the physical work life environment.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

This guest post has been written by Aditya Jaishankar, Founder of Voxbox – a playground for your kid’s imagination.
Aditya is an advertising veteran with over 20 years of experience in brand strategy and communication. He can be reached on LinkedIn and Facebook.

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This blog post is part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla.

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40 comments

  1. This was such a good read! Work from home is indeed a boon for introverts! I would call myself an ambivert
    Working from home can be boon somedays and bane the other days🤣

  2. I felt that this post has been written for me, being an introvert, I could co-relate with all the points . yes, work from home environment. offer lots of benefits for introvert people ( as he listed in post) and personally, I had observed the same. loved this guest post Noor, thanks for sharing this with us.

  3. Even I have witnessed it several times that Introvert people are underestimated. Introvert quality is taken as a minus point of the personality. But reality is way beyound from it, actually these people refrain themselves from the outer show off. I consider Introvert people as a selective person, who feels comfort in their zone. Personality’s introvert version well penned.

  4. I loved reading this post by Aditya on introverts. We have an introvert in the family who definitely has a way of her own. She may not be part of all conversations but its her style and her way of dealing with surroundings.

  5. Introverts have definitely been happy this past year. Hardly stepping out, no need to meet people and even if you have to, you can always keep your video off in meetings.

  6. I think i fall in this category . Love working from home and love to stay awat from meeting people in person but at the same time i enjoy company of like minded people and can have endless conversation .

  7. Being an introvert myself, I can feel what the author is trying to explain here. And, I agree that this whole new normal may actually work in favor for the introverts and may help in breaking yet another stereotype.

  8. Being a total chatter box and talkative, I too zone out and become silent when I am not in the company I desire…. likewise I’ve seen introverts who outshine the entire group when sitting in the right company of people.

  9. This was so nice to go through. I have oscillated with being an introvert in my childhood an extrovert ever since a teen and now I see I have again become an introvert who likes her home and likes lazing around! That’s probably because I am married to an introvert!!

  10. Good thinking on this post. There was one of my ex-bosses who opened up this thought to me. He was classifying everyone and giving each one of us a tag. So, when he got to me, he told me, ‘I know you are not an introvert but, I also know you are not an extrovert. I’m not able to understand your personality. Then he said that maybe I’m a little of both. And, years later, when I began blogging, I got to know the funny term that I thought fit my personality. Ambivert. Hahahaha! I remembered that ex-boss of mine. But, I know some people who have become introverts completely because of the way they have responded to life. If given a chance, they can paint the town red!

  11. I am not an introvert, but I love my self-contained zone. I throughly enjoyed reading the post, it is so real and shows how an introvert is enjoying his zone 🙂 The flexibility of withdrawing from any communication is a bonus point ..hahah:)

      1. Always hated anyone encroaching my work space, this WFH is definitely a plus for those introverts who now get their own space and can control their environment

  12. I personally feel I am a partially introvert person as I simply love being by myself nd can stay that way for long. I love having space . I could totally resonate with his thinking to d core.

  13. MBTI Iis one of the personality test which defines introvert quite precisely. And your post is very close to that. Loved reading it. Introverts are the ones who might not be expressive but are highly intellectual with great observatory power. I am not the one but love their company. Atleast I will have some one to listen to.. Opposite attracts😀

  14. As a ambivalent myself, i can understand the lack of enthusiasm of an introvert for meetings & small talk. This lockdown has been like an ideal situation for me in many ways, including the freedom to teach from home.

  15. Being a complete introvert until college who has evolved as a partial introvert now, I could totally relate to every bit of this post. Very beautifully written and intricately woven. Loved the details of the nature of an introvert, gave me another perspective to see myself in a new light. In the professional field, I always prefer to be an introvert and be happy on my cocoon.

  16. Is that insane that we introverts are actually quite happy in the lockdown? The fact that 14 days of quarrantine was my happy time should say it all…i have to put, go outside as a to do in my list…loved this piece….

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