When my son arrived 3 years ago, I took a prolonged break from a high-pressure legal job. The first year went by in diapers, feeding schedules and baby cuddles; but when he turned 18 months old, I felt the need for gainful employment. I’d been helping a friend out with social media related work, and I’ve always loved to write, so a blog seemed the best way forward. I took a quick Creative Writing course at The British Council, and launched my website in October 2017. The question I get most often is, how I balance all the different roles I play- mother, blogger, family member and friend. International Women’s Week is the perfect occasion to pen my thoughts on this topic. I’ll also highlight, why being a woman is an advantage in this balancing act.
- MAKE YOUR PASSION YOUR VOCATION
I thoroughly enjoy writing, therefore, I’m more likely to make a success of it. A job that doesn’t satisfy leads to burn outs. I’m aware that familial situations and financial circumstances play a big role, but pursuing my dream strengthens my resolve to overcome obstacles and work harder to succeed.
BEING A WOMAN IS AN ADVANTAGE BECAUSE: In many cases, women are not the primary bread-winners, which means we have the time and patience to follow our passion. If I manage to scale grand heights, I may become the primary breadwinner so my husband can retire early!
- SCHEDULE, SCHEDULE, SCHEDULE
As a mother, I’m constantly juggling professional commitments with my son’s school life and kiddie activities. The calendar app on my phone is a life saver. Scheduling my life allows me to be more productive, efficient and well-prepared.
BEING A WOMAN IS AN ADVANTAGE BECAUSE: Women are adept at multi-tasking. I’ve always planned ahead and kept order in my life. This talent holds me in good stead now.
- ESTABLISH A SYSTEM THAT WORKS FOR YOU
If you don’t have the luxury of full-time help at home, and/ or the convenience of family living close by; you should establish a system that works best for you. Perhaps a day-care or crèche facility near your workplace? A neighbour’s daughter willing to babysit for a few hours in the evening while you work or run errands? Or simply working around your child’s napping schedule. I work mostly when my son is in play school, napping in the afternoon or when he sleeps at night.
BEING A WOMAN IS AN ADVANTAGE BECAUSE: Women have run entire households, brought up multiple children and worked if needed, for centuries. Establishing systems comes easy to us.
- ASK FOR HELP
My husband is very hands-on, and we divide our parenting duties 50-50. If your husband doesn’t have the time to do this, due to work constraints, ask him to pitch in over the weekends, or take on certain roles that he’ll enjoy. This could be reading books, building lego, or just taking your child grocery shopping and giving you some time off. In-laws and parents are also happy to engage with their grandchildren. All you have to do is ask!
BEING A WOMAN IS AN ADVANTAGE BECAUSE: Women are inherently empathetic and form connections easily. Keeping the family members happy, looking after the help, and keeping good relations with the community; comes easier to women.
- PRIORITISE YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES
A screaming child, a phone that doesn’t stop buzzing, a deadline on your head, and an uncooked dinner; makes for a scary scenario. Instead of losing my cool, I’m clear on what my priorities are. My child’s wellbeing comes above all else. I only take on work projects that I can fulfil. I keep the data/ wifi on my phone off when I sit down to work, which ensures I’m doubly productive.
BEING A WOMAN IS AN ADVANTAGE BECAUSE: Women’s intuition is your advantage here. You know how to deal with most situations, all you need to do is reflect.
- GIVE YOURSELF ME-TIME
All work and no play makes Jane a dull girl! My juggling act is successful, only because I schedule some ‘me-time’. This includes a trip to the local salon, a mid-day movie, curling up with coffee and a book, or meeting my friends.
BEING A WOMAN IS AN ADVANTAGE BECAUSE: It doesn’t take much to make a woman happy! Sometimes, just painting the nails a vibrant colour, or reorganising the closet, can do the trick.
- DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
We all have bad days, when nothing seems to go our way, but I always keep the larger picture in mind. I tell myself that tomorrow will be a better day, and things will go back to normal. As long as my family is healthy and no big calamity has happened, everything is fine.
BEING A WOMAN IS AN ADVANTAGE BECAUSE: Women are often more resilient than men. Nature made them strong enough to survive carrying and giving birth to children – what’s a bad day in comparison?!
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This post is a part of the #MomsSpeakUp Blog Train hosted by Prisha and Nayantara. I would like to thank Snehal for introducing me. She gives sound fitness advice, along with useful parenting tips. In her post, she has penned 5 planning tips for mothers who work from home- you can read it here. I would like to introduce Ekta. I’m sure you’ll enjoy reading her unapologetic stance on deriding mom’s guilt. Visit her blog here. I have chosen to write on the prompt “reasons I’m happy being a working mother”, but I’ve tweaked it a bit!
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Absolutely Noor, I like the way you’ve put it here. Its important to manage your priorities and work accordingly. Most of the time a new mum’s life is a roller coaster but if someone can manage it well like you then it can surely give you a peace of mind!!
You nailed it so well. Being level headed and prioritizing work will definitely ease the stress we all moms face.
Mothers are multi-tasking managers but somehow due to mother duties lack the fresh start courage. This post talks about the right push that we mothers needed to start .
Totally agree with you gal and am so proud you have carved your way back after experiencing the maternal bliss.
Very true, the first year went by in diapers. I can relate with every word, now my son also completed 2.Very nicely penned and described each and every point.I loved the post.
I’m a big believer of not sweating over small stuff. Moms are wonderful at multitasking but they need to give themselves time and attention too. A happy mom will have a happy family!
I too agree that if you prioritized your responsibility and do your work accordingly many things can be managed!! Moms or rather woman are so gifted with one thing we call it MULTITASKING
It was such a nice read, balancing all and giving some self time is really important for all
Agree with your all points.. Schedule the works is very important to manage things easily.. Initially everything is difficult but strong determination can make it easier..
This is such a helpful and informative post for working moms. I totally agree with your points. Very well-written
Prioritising and asking for help has kept me sane and I am able to keep a good balance between work n family..
Women are great at multitasking. Sharing responsibilities with her husband and time management are two important tips to create that balance
I’m also a working mom. Balancing both work life and personal life is really a hard job. But these points are so valid and useful
Agree with you to the core. Women are great at making toughest things work very easily. A lot of these traits comes naturally to us woman since ages and we have prooved that as well. Great post
Lately, I have been thinking a lot about getting back to my job, but confused! But this article gives a strength.
If you’re thinking about it, you should!
Hats of to women who maintain the balance between work and home so well. It is of course a challenge with kids but the multi-tasking genius of women sees them through.
Thank you so much for your kind words 🙂
I agree with all the points you shared. A mom is busy with so many things that it’s important to set the priorities right. Scheduling is important and me time too .
Thank you for appreciating:)
You have beautifully pointed everything out. It’s very important to create that perfect balance and all these
Points are something every women should consider. Loved reading through
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